Stop Fearing Money and Love Your Way To Abundance

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Money Mindset. Everyone’s favorite topic.

Let’s start with a question: how much money are you claiming for this month? Whatever month you’re reading this on, whatever day of the month it is—how much?

Being able to comfortably speak about money is a result of doing money mindset work. A lot of people—perhaps you—struggle to talk about money AT ALL. Something like stating a desire or intention or goal is powerful, but if we’re too afraid of money to even do that… well we’ve got some work to do.

If you immediately feel resistance to this idea, it’s great that you are here. Often I find that people who are unwilling to even state a desire around how much money they want are operating from a fear that it’s impossible and that the money won’t come. Or that you’re not capable or worthy of making or having that much.

Feel familiar?

There is so much fear around money. It gets built up to be this scary, intimidating, and overwhelming thing.

But in truth, money really isn’t anything. It’s something we’ve collectively prescribed a value too, but in and of itself, it’s just a thing. The way your couch or your coffee mug is just a thing.

Technically “more” money being circulated through things like credit cards and savings and debt than is actually physically printed right now. So it’s a thing that doesn’t… really actually ‘exist’ sometimes. What?!

So from that place we can begin to dissociate money and the meaning we give money. Money holds power because you give it power. Now, I’m a very pragmatic and grounded person—obviously we live in a 3D reality, bills exist—but if we can begin to shift our understanding of money, we can create a lot more of it. Something I remind myself of often is that money is literally being printed all the time. There’s always more. There’s more than we keep up with, there’s more than physically exists. There’s more.

My intention in sharing that is that you can begin to release some of the pressure you feel about money. In my history and experience, the times I’ve felt the most stressed and in fear around money were the times I struggled to make ends meet. When I continue to stay neutral, open, and expansive about money, there seems to magically be enough.

So here’s the core message here: FEARING money doesn’t create more money. Your fears and worries are all valid and are trying to protect you, but they aren’t the thing that will literally create more money. You don’t fear your way to $30k months. You don’t fear your way to $500k years.

Can you think of a time in your life that fearing something you wanted more of actually brought it to you? It doesn’t work like that. You don’t fear a loving relationship and create a loving relationship. You don’t fear a healthy body and create a loving body. The frequency of fear is never going to match up with the frequency of what you desire.

So in regards to money: What if you tried to love, respect, honor, cherish, appreciate it instead? What might that lead to?

In my experience, loving Money will bring more of it to you. Respecting Money will bring more of it to you. Caring about your money will bring more of it to you. But fearing it? Hating it? Feeling angry or resentful or sad about it? Not so abundant.

When I started to recognize my stories and feelings around money there were a few major ones that came up for me:

• I feared making too much money because I feared being responsible for it

• I feared spending it or investing it because I feared it going away

• I feared having too much because it would change my relationships with friends and family

Now like I’ve said before, lot of times our stories/beliefs don’t make logical sense. Those fears logically sound silly, right? Your subconscious isn’t working from a logical place. For me, for whatever reasons, it felt like those things were going to happen and a big part of me was scared and didn’t want those things to happen.

I’m sure you can see how operating from those fears wold be incredibly limiting. How I would—at an unconscious level—reject ways to have too much money. If I didn’t have enough to invest, then I never had to watch money go away. If I never had enough there’s no way it could affect my relationships. If I never made too much then I would never have to learn financial responsibility. And so, I unconsciously made sure I never had too much.

To be clear, that doesn’t look like ‘not trying’ or ‘being lazy’ out in the real world. It shows up in tricky and surprising ways:

• It showed up as underpricing.

• It showed up as giving away too much for free.

• It showed up as not enforcing contracts or boundaries.

• It showed up as bad investments on things I knew I didn’t need.

Not having money coming in easily to your business doesn’t mean you’re not trying. I am sure that you are trying very hard! It means there’s something else in the way. Fear. Fear that is leading you to super subtle and not obvious actions that keeps money away.

The good news in all of this is that we can combat those fears. We can rewrite those stories. We can learn to love money instead of fear it. We can learn to accept money instead of unconsciously rejecting it. That’s work I help a lot of people navigate through and it leads to huge shifts in what you create with your business.

When I think back to some of the best decisions I’ve made in business, they include:

1. Hiring a bookkeeper and accountant

2. Deciding to work on my money mindset

3. Making working on my money mindset a daily practice

Those three moves have been monumental. They’ve made more of an impact than any Instagram strategy or course or blog post. Deciding to let money come into my business easily, making a practice of LOVING money, and hiring experts to help me manage money have been one of the big reasons I’ve made six figures and continue to grow my income. (Inner work and support. The magic formula, y’all!)

Let’s talk action items:

1. Commit to purposely changing your thoughts and feelings about money. This doesn’t have to be hard or rocket science. When you notice thoughts like ‘I can’t make any money’ or ‘everything is too expensive’ make a decision to change the thought to one that is more positive about money. Decide to think that money comes easily to you. Decide to think that you can have nice things. People get really worked up over changing their mindsets and how hard it is to break these negative loops—it is building a habit, just like anything else. The first time you say ‘money comes easily to me’ you will feel silly. The second time you will feel silly. The third time you will feel silly. The 42nd time you will feel good. The 108th time you will feel amazing and abundant. Just keep going.

2. Commit to daily work on your money mindset. This can be as simple as bringing an affirmation practice into your morning that says ‘I am abundant’ or ‘it is easy to make money’. Like the previous step, creating these habits will open your eyes to opportunities, will allow you to see instances that may well already be there but that you’re just not yet cashing in on. 

3. Bring in support/Pay attention to your numbers. Perhaps this looks like an accountant or a bookkeeper or even a coach to help support your money mindset journey (hi, it’s me!). Perhaps this looks like doing the 21-Day Abundance Accelerator. Perhaps this looks like creating money dates and just neutrally looking at your numbers once a week or month. Get support and actually know/neutralize your money.

Are we ready to stop fearing money? Are we ready to love money? Invitation to say it out loud right now. I don’t care how dumb you feel…. Say it with me, “I love money and money loves me”. How do we feel? Are we excited!? Are we abundant?! Yes. We. Are.

What did this bring up for you? Send me a DM on Instagram!

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